Love keeps no records of wrongs.
It is so easy when we get in arguments to bring up the past hurts that we have not forgotten.
This in itself reveals that we truly have not forgiven.
When Jesus forgives us, He says it’s as far as the East is from the west.
We are told to forgive and then Jesus shows us that example by blotting out our past mistakes and remembering them no more.
When we bring up our spouse’s, loved ones “forgiven” faults that we have claimed to have forgiven-we drag them right back to their vomit.
We bathe them in their own sorrow.
Then that sorrow literally swallows them up.
It leads them to shame, self hatred and they go down a deep spiral that could be completely avoided through the miracle of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is truly a supernatural thing.
When we withhold forgiveness we hurt our spouses-loved ones more than we know.
If you forgive, you are saying, I forgive you which means, I am blotting this out and no longer holding it against you.
Which means, you cannot use it as ammo in the future.
Do you truly forgive them?
(There are definitely situations where God calls us to dust our feet off and move on and release people from our lives-especially in abusive situations…this is not justifying abuse in any way. If you need help, get help or get out of those kinds of relationships.)